Dear C; I work at a busy coffee shop. One of my regular customers, Sam, has always been a laid-back dude but recently, he’d complained about feeling dragged out and tired. I didn’t know that much about his personal life, and he seemed to want to talk, so I asked a few questions and discovered […]
MALE, AGE 58, NEVER MARRIED, SINGLE I used to see love as a romantic epic, with a dazzling beauty who would take my breath away and cartoon birds that sang when she appeared. Later, I just wanted someone I could tolerate after a few hours. In my teens, I was really impacted by Hollywood’s view […]
Dear C; I have had it. I am sick and tired of myself. Every year I resolve to make the same changes and I start off with such a great attitude and so much enthusiasm, and then it just kind of dribbles off. I didn’t even bother to try this year. I know I have […]
Dear C, I recently had surgery, and oddly enough, the hardest part of recovery is that I can’t do things for myself that I normally do. I need help — and I really have a hard time asking for help. I was raised back when women were supposed to make everyone else happy, and they […]
Dear C, I’m a single homeowner with a creatively rewarding albeit low-paying career. I was married for 12 years, so I don’t feel like I missed out on anything. Honestly? I like living alone. I have been very independent in the last 30 years of my life but now that I am starting to get […]
Dear C, My friend Lou lives one state away. His dad is 82 now, with no family left but Lou, and for the last few months all I’ve heard about is how stubborn dad is, how his recliner has to be fixed every week, etc, etc – and the sheer amount of time it is […]
Dear C; I really want to lose about 15 lbs before my high school reunion. I know this sounds vain and stupid, but I would really feel like crap if I showed up looking like I had a baby when I didn’t. The event is in a couple of weeks and I need something to […]
Dear C and Dr. J, I have a theory and I wonder if you can support it. I am convinced that every man in the world secretly goes to Bonehead School before they start dating. There, they learn how to:• pretend they don’t know how to use the washing machine• leave food crusted on the […]
Dear C, I couldn’t believe it when my daughter told me, but I looked it up online and it’s true – scientists are actually using psychedelic drugs to treat patients with psychiatric disorders! I did acid twice back in the 60s as a teen, but from what I experienced, it seems like tripping would drive […]
Dear C, There’s a guy I am really attracted to in my political science class. Sometimes I think that he’s interested in me too, but it’s hard to tell since I only see him in class. I’d really like to find out, but it isn’t as simple as approaching him at a party or casually […]