COVID Crazy: One reader wonders what to do about her lack of motivation
Dear C and Dr. B; I know everyone is depressed with this epidemic dragging on. With these short winter days, more restrictions, political dysfunction, etc, we are all down in the dumps. But I feel like I am more depressed than everyone else. I’m not suicidal or anything like that, but I feel such a […]
Deus ex Machina: When religion doesn’t work, consider cosmic mediation
Dear B and C; It has been two weeks since I totaled my car and I am still shaken. Luckily, no one was hurt, but I could have been killed, or worse – killed someone else. I feel sort of numb, which is weird, since it was a huge jolt at the time. I’m not […]
Forgive ’em? Or Forget ’em?: What to do with Trump-loving friends?
Dear C and Dr. B; There are people in my life whom I was friends with before all the recent election fraud garbage erupted. They were supporters of the now ex-POTUS, and they were spouting such insane garbage, with such conviction, that I didn’t want to continue our friendship. During the month before the final inauguration, […]
Stuck!: One reader wonders what to do about an unsupportive boss
Dear C and Dr. B; I am caught between a rock and a hard place, and not sure what to do. I teach at a middle school in Providence, and the disciplinary problems are pretty bad. Lots of my kids come from what I would charitably call “dysfunctional” families, with a history of criminal activity […]
Trust Reviews?: A recommended doctor has bad online reviews. What should be done?
Dear C and Dr. B; I needed to choose a new doctor, so I asked a friend to recommend someone. She told me she liked Dr. _____, but when I went online to read reviews of this doctor, I was a bit alarmed. Out of 20 comments I found, across multiple review sights, 17 were […]
Resolve to Change?: One reader wonders if new year’s resolutions are harmful
Dear C & Dr. B; Every year, I make resolutions for the new year, usually to lose weight and stop drinking. Every year I break the resolutions after a few weeks. Last year, I decided not to make any resolutions, and I lost 5 pounds. My alcohol consumption remained about the same, but still… Now as […]
Mom Is Making Everyone Nuts: One writer wonders how to deal with a complaint-filled family member
Dear C and Dr. B; I love my mother, but she is driving me absolutely nuts. She wants my help but then doesn’t let me help her. She also makes everything about her, even COVID – you’d think it was a personal plot against her. She complains she is lonely but then refuses to go […]
In Kind: If kindness doesn’t bring kindness, what’s the point?
Dear Dr B and C, I was raised in a Christian home and was taught that humans were made in God’s image so there is good in everyone. I was taught to be patient, loving and kind, and that this would bring out the best in others. But what I have found is that this […]
Hard Habit to Break: Is there harm in a bedtime glass of wine?
Dear C and Dr. B; I am not a problem drinker – my one glass of wine before bed was something my doctor knew about and saw no harm in. I never drank during the day and two glasses was my limit at parties. Then for some reason back in August, after I had an […]
What if the Norm Doesn’t Work?: One reader wonders if it’s her or her culture
Dear C and Dr. B; I was having a difficult time with dating and thought my own expectations were the problem … until I visited a friend living across the world, and saw how differently relationships are regarded there. They have a strong sense of family, but as far as everything else – it seems […]