Advice from the Trenches: Why Do I Get Attached?
Dear C: I want to know why every time I sleep with a guy, I get attached. Men just don’t seem to do this. I hear a lot of my female friends say the same thing, but men seem to want to jump out of bed and run out the door. Is it an emotional […]
With summer quickly approaching, I imagine there are some readers who would like to learn to fish — that age-old skill and pastime. I have learned a lot in the last eight years or so, mostly through trial and error. I have taken suggestions of conventional wisdom that didn’t work, and tried oddball tactics that […]
Advice from the Trenches: Screening
Dear C, My brother Kenny and I are having a disagreement. He’s been having digestive problems off and on, but refuses to get checked out. He is of the opinion that if you don’t look for trouble, you won’t find it. He reels out story after story of people he knew who were okay until they […]
Advice from the Trenches: e-Cigarettes
Dear C: I have tried to quit many times, but I still smoke. Don’t give me a lecture, I know all about the dangers, but I have too much pressure in my life right now to add more by going cold turkey and neither the patch nor nicotine gum worked for me. Then I discovered […]
Advice from the Trenches: My Clothes Are Ugly and I’m a Terrible Cook
Dear C, I’m engaged to a really great guy. He was born in Taipei but learned English when he was very young and came to the US for college. His parents came for a visit to meet me last week. After eating at several good restaurants around town, we invited them to our apartment for […]
Advice from the Trenches: Jealousy!
Dear C; I am not sure if this is a problem, but it does worry me a lot. My boyfriend never gets jealous over me. Not even the tiniest bit. I have never cheated on him but other men sometimes flirt with me, right in front of him, and a couple times I flirted back […]
Advice from the Trenches: Super Mother-in-Law!!
Dear C; My question is: How do you not feel completely inadequate as a wife and daughter-in-law when you have a Super Mother-In-Law? She’s an amazing cook — all from scratch — and she did everything around the house and was home for her kids in the day, then worked at night. My husband frequently […]
Advice from the Trenches: Freshman 15
Dear Sister C; Until I went to college, my weight was pretty normal, maybe a couple pounds over. This first semester, I’ve gained over 30 pounds. It’s making me miserable and I’ve started hiding my room because I feel like a whale. I saw the school therapist and she was more concerned as to whether […]
Advice from the Trenches: Graduating from Design School
Dear Sister C; I just graduated from a design school as a top student. I had no problem dealing with tough deadlines or assignments. But now that I’m out, I feel like I’m back to square one. I wanted a career in fine arts. It’s not like there’s a JOB out here for me. Freelance sucks. We […]
Advice From The Trenches
“When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.” – Hunter Thompson We don’t live in a sane world. We’re not safe behind bars. Here, on the other side of the gates of privilege, a lot of us have wandered into the trenches. It’s an easy place to get lost for a while. When I […]