Tag: Love

  • RI Musicians Play Their Hearts Out: A playlist of local love songs

    RI Musicians Play Their Hearts Out: A playlist of local love songs

    Photo by Jonathan J. Castellon on Unsplash

    We asked readers to share their favorite local love songs and why they’re worthy of your Valentine’s playlist. Here are 28 songs of love and loss from 24 local artists. 
    THE BENJIS: “SKATE” AND “BAD SIGN
    “‘Skate’ is basically a sloppy love letter to Parker Posey, an end-of-summer lament,” says Benji’s vocalist Aryieal Francis. "‘Bad Sign’ is about the melancholy side of love when things don’t work out, the letter that you don’t send.” 
    BETH BARRON: “KISS MY CHEEK
    “‘Kiss My Cheek’ is about a couple having a tough time or arguing more from the exhaustion of life,” Barron says. “However, what keeps them going is that simple kiss on the cheek. Honest and sweet, it puts all things in perspective and reminds them of their love.” 
    DEGENERATES OF PUNK: “LIL DINO
    “Capone and I shared unconditional love,” Jimmy West says of his touching ode to his dog. “We were there for each other and made each other happy. He was my friend and I loved him. This song is a reminder of the great years we spent together. I miss him every day.” 
    
    ERIC AND THE NOTHING: “DOWN TO THE CITY“They’ve written a bunch of beautiful love songs, but ‘Down to the City’ really touches my heart,” says Alyssa Lynn Tuchon. “I never expected someone would write a song about me, but it happened! Years later we're still going strong, though a lot has changed. I've become disabled and dealing with all the things that come along with that. Hearing how proud I made him feel then, even now despite things I can't change. I think the song encompasses that struggle of love’s ups and downs, but in a dancey, enjoyable way.” 
    
    MIKE GENDRON: “UNTIL IT’S NOT“People often immediately think of a ‘love song’ as a song that needs to be sappy and full of big, tear-jerking chords, arrangements, and lyrics dripping with mush,” Gendron says. “People forget about the underbelly of true love, if you're fortunate enough to find it: how sometimes it can be a struggle to maintain understanding and the integrity of the whole ‘give & take.’ This song focuses more on that aspect, and that to make something work, if it's worth it to you, you have to endure and accept the dark, if you want to feel and appreciate the light.” 
    
    J. MICHAEL GRAHAM: “BACK FROM MEMPHIS"‘Back From Memphis’ is a good love song because love is the driver of the song,” Graham says. “The speaker left his love behind for a life on the road, only to find desperation and regret…Long story short: success, fame, and fortune mean nothing without the muse.” 
    
    HEATHER ROSE IN CLOVER: “TRUE NORTH“‘True North’ was written as a thank you and a promise to my wife Lisa,” Rose says. “It’s about finding your person and having the privilege to navigate life with them by your side. ‘True North’ has a very ‘It’s you and me against the world!’ vibe that Lisa took even further by recording a bass track that truly supports and elevates the song.” 
    
    HELEN AND THE TRASH PANDAS: “LONELINESS IS THE DEVIL,” “AIN’T NOBODY“How ‘Loneliness is the Devil’ came to life is a love story. I was performing with my band when the next band came strolling in and one of them had a new fella. They had just gotten through a tough time in love and this new person shot up all the red flags. I glanced over to my bandmate and song co-writer Jay Scheffler and said ‘You know what that is? Loneliness is the devil.’” 
    
    When you’re lonely and your heart is aching, you might do things you wouldn’t normally. The devil is the loneliness and it lures you to love something that might not be best for your heart. 
    
    “‘It Ain’t Nobody’ came from letters I wrote to an ex of mine. I put them in my notes app, not to send but to get out of my mind and heart.” 
    
    O.B. HOWARD: “COUNTING TWICE,” "STUMBLE
    
    JAKE HUNSINGER AND THE ROCK BOTTOM BAND: “LORELAI
    “‘Lorelai’ is about how love can change you against your will,” Hunsinger says. “The narrator tells Lorelai throughout the song that, despite how exciting his life is, he has only been lonely and unfulfilled without her. The upbeat nature is an indicator of how manic and nervous he is while saying all this. His heart and mind are moving fast, so the song has to move fast, too. It also doesn’t give the listener any resolution. It ends with the question: Do you ever think about you and I? His feelings might not be reciprocated at the end. Love is always worth it though, even if it hurts.”
    JENN LOMBARI: “AFTERLIFE (HAPPY ANNIVERSARY)“I wrote this song about fate, destiny, kismet,” Lombari says. “Feeling like you’ve found your person and you want to be with them lifetime after lifetime. However, the person I had in mind when I wrote this turned out to be horribly emotionally abusive. But it does come off as a beautiful story with ups, downs, and understanding. It’s a reminder of what to strive for.” 
    
    KEN LYON AND TOMBSTONE: “MY BABY’S SO EVIL
    MARY MCAVOY: “LONELY LOVE"‘Lonely Love’ by Mary McAvoy is a classic lost love song,” says fan Michael Panico. “This is a true heartbreak song, direct and to the point. It’s about that time we’ve all been through, when a relationship ends before you’re ready. It’s painful but you must live through the pain. It’s hard, but at least you’re feeling something as Mary says in the lyric: I guess I would rather have you than have nothing at all. I've seen her sing this live and you really feel it when she gets to the chorus. She belts out ‘Lonely Love’ in such a passionate way you almost feel that pain yourself.” 
    
    THE MCGUNKS: “LOVE SONGSo you want a love song/ Well you ain’t gonna get one here/ I think by now I would have made that clear…I find myself falling down/ Crawling back to you…It’s sarcastic but sweet,” says Bob Kadlec. 
    
    NO ROOM AT THE MORGUE: “ANIMAL’S EYES
    BRIAN SHOVELTON: “STEP BY STEP"‘Step by Step’ by Brian Shovelton is a realistic love song that conveys a sense of hope and redemption,” says fan Jennifer Dunford-Roskos. “The message behind ‘Step by Step’ is that as long as you can hold on to love, anything is possible. A loving relationship will help you get over past mistakes and deal with present hardships. Additionally, this song is absolutely beautiful and has a catchy chorus.” 
    
    MADDIE SKELDON: “HEART STILL LONGS“Love is complicated,” says fan Michael Skeldon. “In looking back at a relationship’s end, you can focus on trying to move on with your life or you can grapple with longing for a relationship that was less than perfect.” 
    
    SONS OF ALABASTER: “HOLE IN MY HEART,” “CRUMBLE
    “The song is a love song about betrayal and the pain of being cheated on,” says guitarist Nils Freiberger. “Being in love can be a wonderful thing but it also leaves one vulnerable should such a thing happen. Crumble is another love song about breaking up and wondering what happened, how the other person can be so indifferent, and is it even worth trying again?” 
    
    CORRINE SOUTHERN: “HONEY“‘Honey’ is a sweet, little song I wrote about the feelings that accompany new love,” Southern says. “The excitement you feel when you realize you’re smitten with someone. It’s lyrically cheeky and sexual while remaining genuine and maintaining a sense of humor. It’s a simple message of desire that has strong imagery.” 
    
    TERENCE SUN: “CAROLINE” 
    “Nothing else matters when you're stuck,” says Sun. “You only see that one special person in a room full of people.” 
    
    DAVID TESSIER: “HEY MARY“I don’t know that it makes for a good love song, or that it’s a good song at all, but it’s about the yearning to be near someone while life’s responsibilities keep you apart,” Tessier says. “Hey, Mary, I want you to see… Though the days and the nights and the dark and the light are conspiring, I want you here by me. It’s not Shakespeare, but it was definitely real when I wrote it.” 
    
    TOAD AND THE STOOLIGANS: “PART TIME LOVERS 
    “‘Part Time Lovers’ stands out as a rap love song that touches on the flakiness of dating and how people tend to only work ‘part time’ for things that didn’t meet their expectations,” explains vocalist Mike Jencks. 
    
    TWOKAY: “HEY THERE
    
    LADY PURGE: "MINE MINE MINE" AND "RAINDROPS"
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
  • Pouring Love: Couples brewing

    Pouring Love: Couples brewing

    This month we acknowledge Cupid’s mythical concoction of beer and love.

    Here’s the story of 3 established breweries led by craft beer pioneering couples: 

    Jen and John Kimmich – The Alchemist, Stowe, VT

    Set the WayBack Machine to 1995, and you’ll find John brewing and Jen waitressing at the Burlington Vermont Brewery & Pub. The magic elixir of beer (cherubic lube) would lead them eight years later to open The Alchemist Brewery & Pub in Waterbury, VT. Recognized as the first and foremost hazy double india pale ale, Alchemist’s Heady Topper hits the taste bud love target similar to the archer’s paradox: It is meant to give you wave after wave of floral hoppy goodness piercing your tongue and leaving no trace of bitterness. Now craft beer world renowned, Jen & John have shared their affection for amazing beer, sustainable environmental ethics and an inclusive work environment. Their magical craft surrounds all with boundless love and happiness. If you’re looking for love you can find it at 100 Cottage Club Rd, Stowe, VT. Visit online at alchemistbeer.com.

    Jennifer and Alan Brinton – Grey Sail, Westerly, RI

    One could say a love potion of beer crafted with desire, passion, and affection brought Jen and Alan together to hoist Grey Sail. Opening a microbrewery was Alan’s dream: For their first 10 years of marriage, though, Alan kept the notion under his cap. Jen’s 10th anniversary present was to put the feather in Alan’s cap, and in 2010 they purchased the Westerly Macaroni Factory building. The brewery name started as Grace Ale from their oldest daughter’s name, and it transitioned into Grey Sail adding the sailing theme for coastal Westerly. Now the brewery is celebrating it’s 10-year anniversary and 20 years of a love-filled marriage of beer and community. With environmentally-conscious business practices and a welcoming atmosphere, Jen & Alan provide harmony for workers, local musicians and loyal customers. The brewery also promotes area food trucks & pop ups that hit the target! Cheers to the Grey Sail Brewery, lovingly called Jen & Alan’s fifth child.

    Get on board Grey Sail, docked at 63 Canal St, Westerly. Visit online at greysailbrewing.com.

    Liz & Jared Kiraly – Bone Up Brewing, Everett, Mass.

    Liz & Jared Kiraly’s love of life overflows with heart and heavy metal soul. Like Belgian artist Rubens expressed love in painted winged cherubs in The Feast of Venus, Bone Up Brewing’s Liz & Jared Kiraly share their love of Belgian farmhouse brewing techniques, combined with a feast of food vendors, popup-style, and a large selection of dried meats. 

    Liz and Jared started brewing in their kitchen with dreams of starting their own public house. Jared went to Brussels with the intention of eating waffles for three days straight. After his first sip of a Westmalle Tripel, light shone down from the heavens, angels started singing; now he makes beer. Their marriage and knowledge of brewing has made them relationship experts. Serving suggestion for a perfect date night: a bottle of love-infused Menagerie and a Barrel-Aged Dark Smoked Saison, whether it’s snuggling with your beau and sharing a snifter by the fireplace or out of a bottle-in-a-paper-bag in front of a trashcan fire. Where can you find this and other love potions? Bone Up Brewing Co., 38 Norman St, Everett, Mass. Visit online at www.boneup.beer

  • Love Scam

    Love Scam

    Dear C and Dr. B,

    My head is still reeling over this and I have not quite been able to reorient myself.

    It all started a year ago, after my divorce. I was feeling dejected and lonely. I wasn’t ready to date yet so instead I joined an online pen pal service. I was matched up with a man from a small village in Africa, and over the last year we became good friends. He helped me a lot in my recovery from a pretty bad divorce, and I helped him as much as I could, as life was pretty tough for him as well in a different way. I never felt taken advantage of – I sent him some money because I felt it was the least I could do. It was nothing big, he was grateful and I thought that was it.   

    Then three weeks ago the shit hit the fan – I got a call from some international lawyer’s office saying that I had sent money to a terrorist organization and I was being investigated. They said they were specialists in representing this kind of thing. They had a lot of personal information about me and they had my pen pal’s name and number as well. They said that I could be in a lot of trouble, and they wanted $5,000 as a retainer! My heart almost stopped. 

    Luckily my brother said it sounded fishy and had me call the FBI. They directed me to the Love Scam site they’d created. That was when I discovered the entire script my friend used was there with minor story line adjustments.  Since then I have been in contact with many other women who had used similar dating web services and had been taken for a lot of money.     

    I  guess I was lucky… but at the same time I am feeling like I’ve just had a whole second loss. In my marriage, my ex was a complete cheating bastard and now someone I trusted as my best friend turned out to be a scammer and a liar as well. How many times can I be betrayed? I am not sure I can ever trust a man again. – Betrayed Becky

    Dr. B says:

    Can you trust men? Yes and no. Some people are good, trustworthy and have an inner set of guiding morals. Many more are good only when there is direct accountability, clear expectations and consistent boundaries. A few people are bad seeds no matter what.  

    Often the worst people appear as the best. They are predators, and like all predators they are good at luring out their prey. But remember this: if it seems too good to be true, it isn’t true. If you find yourself making small compromises in your integrity and boundaries, or reaching into your pocketbook, you are probably being lured. If you find yourself becoming ever more isolated, and discouraged from hanging with your family or friends, the net is closing around you.  

    As long as there has been an internet, there have been internet scams. The web provides both access and anonymity – a dangerous combination. Remember, the only predator that preys on humans is other humans. This love scam script hasn’t changed in 20 years. It remains effective because humans are wired to believe in something no matter what evidence there is against it.  

    Falling for a love scam doesn’t mean you are naïve or stupid. It just means you are human. Women in our culture are conditioned to sacrifice, nurture, and put others needs before their own. These are the ingredients for an imbalance of power within relationships and an unsuccessful outcome, despite our cultural myth of happily ever after. The technical term for such relationships is “codependent,” although I prefer dysfunctionally stable. Other cultures have an entirely different set of expectations and relationship skills, but this is what is taught in our culture.  

    C says:

    Honestly Becky? You’ve got to be at least a little naïve to start sending money to a man you’ve never met. But I’ve learned to never underestimate the brain-numbing power of human loneliness.

    A divorce, especially one that was fueled by betrayal, can leave anyone aching and vulnerable. Every lonely person in the world wants to believe that there is someone out there who really understands. Divorced, betrayed women are as vulnerable as teenage girls, no matter what their age. You are bruised and yearning for validation and warmth. You are a sitting duck. So listen up.

    Trust is not just about who you are with… it’s about who YOU are. Right now, you are someone who can be lied to. Until you change that, you can’t trust anyone. You need to sharpen your awareness – make sure that the people you confide in are real. You fell for a fantasy. Do not ever again blindly believe what people say – watch what they do. Ask questions. It’s up to you.

    You can visit Dr. B’s blog at drbrilliantcliche.wordpress.com