Time Travel: It is okay for her man-child ex to live in her basement?
Dear C and Dr. B; I am wondering if I am losing it, or if what I am doing is a reasonable way dealing with difficult and unchangeable realities. I’ll explain. My ex husband lives in my basement. Ha ha. Funny, except it’s true. He really screwed up our marriage and I divorced him for good […]
Is Valentine’s Day a Made-up Holiday?: Or is this reader’s relationship a fake?
Dear C and Dr. B; Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and, as always, my boyfriend of four years blew it off. He says it’s a BS Hallmark holiday made for corporate profits only and then sold to the masses to feed their romantic delusions. He says that 50% of Americans don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day […]
COVID Crazy: One reader wonders what to do about her lack of motivation
Dear C and Dr. B; I know everyone is depressed with this epidemic dragging on. With these short winter days, more restrictions, political dysfunction, etc, we are all down in the dumps. But I feel like I am more depressed than everyone else. I’m not suicidal or anything like that, but I feel such a […]
Deus ex Machina: When religion doesn’t work, consider cosmic mediation
Dear B and C; It has been two weeks since I totaled my car and I am still shaken. Luckily, no one was hurt, but I could have been killed, or worse – killed someone else. I feel sort of numb, which is weird, since it was a huge jolt at the time. I’m not […]
Forgive ’em? Or Forget ’em?: What to do with Trump-loving friends?
Dear C and Dr. B; There are people in my life whom I was friends with before all the recent election fraud garbage erupted. They were supporters of the now ex-POTUS, and they were spouting such insane garbage, with such conviction, that I didn’t want to continue our friendship. During the month before the final inauguration, […]
Stuck!: One reader wonders what to do about an unsupportive boss
Dear C and Dr. B; I am caught between a rock and a hard place, and not sure what to do. I teach at a middle school in Providence, and the disciplinary problems are pretty bad. Lots of my kids come from what I would charitably call “dysfunctional” families, with a history of criminal activity […]
Trust Reviews?: A recommended doctor has bad online reviews. What should be done?
Dear C and Dr. B; I needed to choose a new doctor, so I asked a friend to recommend someone. She told me she liked Dr. _____, but when I went online to read reviews of this doctor, I was a bit alarmed. Out of 20 comments I found, across multiple review sights, 17 were […]
Music as Medicine: Musical therapy provides new avenues of communication
Music predates human language – it is woven into the history of every culture and into the rites and rituals of every religion. What is less known is that one of its most ancient uses was not as a form of expression – music was also one of the earliest forms of medicine. For centuries, […]
Resolve to Change?: One reader wonders if new year’s resolutions are harmful
Dear C & Dr. B; Every year, I make resolutions for the new year, usually to lose weight and stop drinking. Every year I break the resolutions after a few weeks. Last year, I decided not to make any resolutions, and I lost 5 pounds. My alcohol consumption remained about the same, but still… Now as […]
Mom Is Making Everyone Nuts: One writer wonders how to deal with a complaint-filled family member
Dear C and Dr. B; I love my mother, but she is driving me absolutely nuts. She wants my help but then doesn’t let me help her. She also makes everything about her, even COVID – you’d think it was a personal plot against her. She complains she is lonely but then refuses to go […]