Advice from the Trenches: Out of Time
Dear C; I work days, from about 8:30 in the morning until 6 at night. My boyfriend doesn’t have to get to his job until mid afternoon so he gets up late and then doesn’t get home until after 10pm. It’s really becoming a problem because we hardly ever see each other. We got a […]
Advice from the Trenches: Winning
Dear C; My roommate Josey is driving me nuts. Josey is funny and can also very generous and kind hearted, but she sometimes has these totally irrational responses to little goof-ups or unexpected accidents that can make her really unpleasant to be around. An example: A couple of weeks ago, we were in the kitchen […]
Advice from the Trenches: I’m Confused!
Dear C, I am confused. Every time I watch a news show or read the paper, there’s another headline about what science has discovered is good, or bad, for you. I remember when coffee was the great evil — now they say it’s okay. Then fat was bad for you, and fat free foods were […]
Advice from the Trenches: Why Do I Get Attached?
Dear C: I want to know why every time I sleep with a guy, I get attached. Men just don’t seem to do this. I hear a lot of my female friends say the same thing, but men seem to want to jump out of bed and run out the door. Is it an emotional […]
With summer quickly approaching, I imagine there are some readers who would like to learn to fish — that age-old skill and pastime. I have learned a lot in the last eight years or so, mostly through trial and error. I have taken suggestions of conventional wisdom that didn’t work, and tried oddball tactics that […]
Advice from the Trenches: Screening
Dear C, My brother Kenny and I are having a disagreement. He’s been having digestive problems off and on, but refuses to get checked out. He is of the opinion that if you don’t look for trouble, you won’t find it. He reels out story after story of people he knew who were okay until they […]
Advice from the Trenches: e-Cigarettes
Dear C: I have tried to quit many times, but I still smoke. Don’t give me a lecture, I know all about the dangers, but I have too much pressure in my life right now to add more by going cold turkey and neither the patch nor nicotine gum worked for me. Then I discovered […]
Advice from the Trenches: My Clothes Are Ugly and I’m a Terrible Cook
Dear C, I’m engaged to a really great guy. He was born in Taipei but learned English when he was very young and came to the US for college. His parents came for a visit to meet me last week. After eating at several good restaurants around town, we invited them to our apartment for […]
Advice from the Trenches: Jealousy!
Dear C; I am not sure if this is a problem, but it does worry me a lot. My boyfriend never gets jealous over me. Not even the tiniest bit. I have never cheated on him but other men sometimes flirt with me, right in front of him, and a couple times I flirted back […]
Advice from the Trenches: Super Mother-in-Law!!
Dear C; My question is: How do you not feel completely inadequate as a wife and daughter-in-law when you have a Super Mother-In-Law? She’s an amazing cook — all from scratch — and she did everything around the house and was home for her kids in the day, then worked at night. My husband frequently […]